Just tell me your likes and dislikes, sit back and enjoy the best of me, so far obeying them won't cause me to do anything wrong.
Is there anyone here who really doesn't know how important - in fact, compulsory - it is to tell their partner all of their likes and dislikes? I hope nobody raises a hand to say yes, as that would be a funny answer, you know. In every relationship, two strange people meet with a view to becoming mutual and living in peace forever, possibly. (I've not heard or seen anyone who decided to go into a relationship just to experience how problems feel like). While some are in heavenly places, others battling with devils in hell - all courtesy of their relationships. Being compatible in a relationship is a task, and it's always very hard to achieve, hence the words 'two strange people' as used above. And, it's because you and your partner were once absolutely strange to each other, you're likely going to experience conflicting directions of likes and dislikes - conflicting in the sense that what they like and stand for will not always be same with yours, and vice versa. Here's the beginning of conflict, dear readers, and it's inevitable in all relationships. What matters is how fitting, suitable, reconcilable you guys are; as well as your willingness to settle conflicts. That aside.
In every relationship, compatibility is both a task and a hard thing to achieve because of what it demands. Imagine you having to let go of your favourite stuffs in life just because of someone else - someone whose previous life you can't tell, and whose future you can't predict. Imagine you having to become an extrovert/introvert - maybe a bit - simply because you're in a relationship. Imagine you having to learn how to eat certain dishes, wear certain clothes, watch certain TV programmes (men and women will always have conflicting interests in the TV programmes they watch. Lol), or start receiving visitors around you - all of which you were never used to for once in your whole life on earth. While there's a possibility that two people can have similar lifestyle, that possibility is very slim. Without telling too many stories, at the end of the day, adaptation is the answer. But whether or not it's possible to adapt, depends on the individuals concerned and on the things to adapt to, as well as the circumstances taking place at that moment (eg. a bereaved person might not be able to adapt to certain things till they're able get over with their state of mind).
If you take a closer look at the opening sentence put in italics, there's a part that talked about doing anything 'wrong'. I want to believe no one dislikes this. But if anyone does, not to worry. Let's explain further. As humans are different, so are their likes and dislikes...and nature worsens it by making it impossible for one person to clearly tell what's on the other person's mind. If you date/marry someone who steals, acts porn, smuggles hard drugs, or is into human trafficking, you're likely going to be asked to adapt to their likes and dislikes: it could be you having to be part of the business, whether in a big or small scale; or it could be you only accepting what they do without necessarily partaking in these things yourself. In one way or the other, you must adapt to what they like and as well stay away from what they don't like (and funny enough, what they don't like might actually be what you like!). So, would you adapt to any likes/dislikes that aid such acts? In as much as you want to enjoy your personal life, also bear in mind your relationship goes a long way in affecting humanity, positively or negatively. That's why I chipped in the part that you must make it clear to your partner that you're ready to accept their likes and dislikes, so far obeying them won't cause you to do anything wrong. Again, this explains why I will always trace the effect of every little thing we do - be it personal or collective - to the nature of humanity we see today: the foundation you lay in your relationship doesn't only translate into the children you raise, but it also reflects your own contribution to the world. Lay it well!
Having sorted out what the person wants you to adapt to, the rest is your choice. I wouldn't want to force you to follow only people who are Mr/Miss Right (if at all we have such on earth), as life has shown that some really evil people have turned out to be saints in the long run. But hoping things would get better one day (in terms of reconciling extreme differences in likes and dislikes) between you and your partner, to me, is a risk not worth taking. If the difference is extreme, you sure don't need any Jesus to preach to you: the exit door is still very free for you to use.
What's next? Sit back, look back into your relationship once more and in a very sincere and critical manner. How incompatible are you and your partner? Is it extreme and wearing that belligerent look? How often do you guys have peace and how long does it last? Would you trade your peace of mind for a car, a house, or someone's aesthetic looks? The choice is yours. End of sermon!
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If you take a closer look at the opening sentence put in italics, there's a part that talked about doing anything 'wrong'. I want to believe no one dislikes this. But if anyone does, not to worry. Let's explain further. As humans are different, so are their likes and dislikes...and nature worsens it by making it impossible for one person to clearly tell what's on the other person's mind. If you date/marry someone who steals, acts porn, smuggles hard drugs, or is into human trafficking, you're likely going to be asked to adapt to their likes and dislikes: it could be you having to be part of the business, whether in a big or small scale; or it could be you only accepting what they do without necessarily partaking in these things yourself. In one way or the other, you must adapt to what they like and as well stay away from what they don't like (and funny enough, what they don't like might actually be what you like!). So, would you adapt to any likes/dislikes that aid such acts? In as much as you want to enjoy your personal life, also bear in mind your relationship goes a long way in affecting humanity, positively or negatively. That's why I chipped in the part that you must make it clear to your partner that you're ready to accept their likes and dislikes, so far obeying them won't cause you to do anything wrong. Again, this explains why I will always trace the effect of every little thing we do - be it personal or collective - to the nature of humanity we see today: the foundation you lay in your relationship doesn't only translate into the children you raise, but it also reflects your own contribution to the world. Lay it well!
Having sorted out what the person wants you to adapt to, the rest is your choice. I wouldn't want to force you to follow only people who are Mr/Miss Right (if at all we have such on earth), as life has shown that some really evil people have turned out to be saints in the long run. But hoping things would get better one day (in terms of reconciling extreme differences in likes and dislikes) between you and your partner, to me, is a risk not worth taking. If the difference is extreme, you sure don't need any Jesus to preach to you: the exit door is still very free for you to use.
What's next? Sit back, look back into your relationship once more and in a very sincere and critical manner. How incompatible are you and your partner? Is it extreme and wearing that belligerent look? How often do you guys have peace and how long does it last? Would you trade your peace of mind for a car, a house, or someone's aesthetic looks? The choice is yours. End of sermon!
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