Are You Guys Compatible in Your Relationship? See How

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A very big thank you to all those who do visit, share, and comment on our social media platforms. You're the best. Today, you're about learning something very key in every single relationship: the issue of compatibility. Remember when I promised that? The word is a very common one in the English dictionary. But just to refresh our brain, the Advanced English Dictionary defines it as: (1) a feeling of sympathetic understanding, (2) capability of existing or performing in harmonious or congenial combination. This is a huge topic, but we shall make it as brief as possible so you can read through it in some minutes. You don't want your food to get burnt in the kitchen. Do you?

Whether it's a relationship between two business firms, whether it's between one country and another, whether it's between a father and his daughter, whether it's between two lovers - no matter the form of relationship we fine ourselves - the partners concerned MUST be compatible. In this article, two things define compatibility: "knowing" and "deciding". Let's find out.

1. Knowing

Compatibility is when the partners know everything (necessary) about each other. In life everyone has one single goal that they can't do without. That's the reason they live. It's what they believe brought them to this world, their very peculiar contribution to life. It's their final destination on earth. I call this life mission or sole motivator. You may be a doctor, your spouse an accountant...and you guys have everything you need as a family. But there's this one thing that you crave for individually, something that makes you absolutely dissatisfied with life, if you don't fulfil it. I keep pleading with people, before you say I do, please find time to ask your potential partner what that single life motivator is. No matter how long it takes you, find it out first before you walk down the aisle (I know you can't wait for it. Lol.). Or, if I may ask the ladies, you've been nursing serious plans to splash money and make your weeding day fanciful. But your hubby decides to donate that money (say $8,000) to the orphanage, opting to do a very low key wedding ceremony (with only $700!). Would you accept it? That's just to show you how incompatible people can think! People get motivated by different things...and they are ever ready to sacrifice for what they stand for. There are different factors that motivate people's life missions. One of them is religion. I won't mention any more. Let's just consider the following.

Someone's testimony: A guy got married to a lady a couple of years back. Sure, the guy is handsome, the lady is beautiful. But what really got them in love I don't know. However, I know for sure they dated for about eight solid years. One year after marriage, the medical student guy is now a pastor. His wife flies around the world as an air hostess. To cut the long story short, she is absolutely uncomfortable with her husband being  a pastor. She is a Christian, goes to church every Sunday, but does not just like it that her hubby is a pastor. She's very much ok with the man being a true Christian, but certainly not a pastor. I asked the man what happened during their courtship. The stories were too much for me to absorb. But suffice it to say that according to him, "I can't imagine myself not preaching the word of God. It's why I'm a Christian. I'm not of the world. I must add souls to heaven. Life is nothing without this!" Now, that's the man's sole motivator in life. But they failed to share it during courtship. Trust me, their compatibility issues have just started. You wouldn't like that in your relationship.

2. Deciding

Compatibility is when the partners decide to be together after knowing all the ups and downs about each other. After you've scrutinised every single thing that your partner is made of, it's left for you to decide whether or not to agree to be together forever. It is sad and at same time laughable that people run into relationships these days with knowing why they do that. Some do it by clear show of mistake, some by force, and others with no reason whatsoever!

In every relationship, you're to sharpen your partner! It doesn't get any clearer! How can you sharpen your partner when you're not compatible? Life is embedded with simple natural things that should teach man lessons. "Can two walk together except they agree?" Certainly not! Now, some people don't know how to tell their potential partners about their life missions. They feel they might lose their partners if they aren't comfortable with such life missions. Hmmm...is it more preferable to have marital problems than loose a date? Even companies go through terms and conditions of their partners before deciding to do any business together. It's never compulsory you marry a particular person, especially if you're not compelled by your tradition (this is not to support marriage compulsion in world cultures, but to let you know such things really do exist). 

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Problems are part of life, but some problems shouldn't have been if we had handled them with care. Some can be solved, but some are too dangerous to incur in the first place. Marriage should be forever. Do great findings before you settle down with someone. And if you're following all these astrological signs to find your compatibility, you have to be very careful lest you run faster than a horse out of your relationship. You can stop the error in your marriage by tackling the mistake in your relationship.

Now you've got the clue, think deeper and find out that single thing that your partner says he/she came to the world to do. That's your number one point for judging compatibility. It tells clearly what motivates them, what they feel they need to achieve in order to be fulfilled in life.

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