Discussing in the Public? Know Your Spouse by Their Eye Movements

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Hi all! You're warmly welcome to this very expose`. Today, I'm about to expose you to something very common among people, but always not decoded by same people, especially those on the receiving end. How often do you have a chat with your spouse in the public? What do you notice about their eye movement? Does it bother you at all? Here, I'll be talking about the movements of people's eyes 'away' from the 'receiving end' (ie the other party) when in a discussion and the possible meanings behind them. Before we start, however, let it also be known that generalizing a claim is dangerous. Hence, I'm not concluding that every eye movement away from the receiving end has a negative meaning. Here we go!

Have you ever been in a face-to-face discussion with your partner in the public and you wonder why they just can't fix their eyes on you as they are talking? On the other hand, as the one talking, do you wonder why your partner looks outside more often than they look into your eyes? Of course, you guys are each other's audience at that particular moment and so you deserve that your partner concentrates on you in that discussion. But they keep looking sidewards, backwards, or even at things behind you. All this happens in all public places—in the class room, cafe`, market, in the bus, at restaurant, even in your house. All that is needed is the presence of someone else around the vicinity, preferably someone who's opposite sex to your partner.

As I don't intend to bore you with a lengthy talk, right away I present to you some of the reasons why your partner doesn't have a constant and needed look into your eyes when you guys discuss in the public:

1. Your partner is a cheating type:

Ooops! You just got confused hearing that? Flashing back on events in the past, possibly where you suspected your partner of this? O yea, cheaters have no single reason whatsoever to look into your eyes constantly when discussing in the public. Never! That's an opportunity for them to look around for someone they may also like/love, in addition to you sitting there. If there's a girl (or girls) around that vicinity, be rest assured your guy is very much interested in them. Too, if there's a guy (guys) around there, be rest assured your woman can't stop looking at those dudes around you. Flirts can never retain constant eye contact with their partners in the public when there are people around for them to admire and lust after. Come on!

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2. Shyness:

Generally, shy people won't be able to maintain constant look into your eyes. However, their case is always easily noticed because they can look down, up, side-wards, or cover their face with their hands or handkerchief. In fact, their actions are always well pronounced. So you will even notice it that they are shy. Lol.

3. Afraid:

Without mincing words, your partner may be afraid to look into your eyes simply because they are afraid either of you or of impending buster (eg. their parent or relatives catching them sitting with you). If you're way older, richer, educated, or influential than them, they might be afraid to look right into your eyes. Inferiority complex of all kinds fall in here, too.

4. Worry:

If your partner doesn't look into your eyes as expected, chances are there's a problem - either a problem both of you are aware of, or something they're hiding away from you. However, such wavery eye movements are always accompanied by some fitting body language - they act very calm/troubled, arrogant, or indifferent. It could be the worst thing even: they are no longer interested in you...and all you're busy saying there is a waste of their precious time. It could be the person is not even proud of you. Sitting with you, then, gives them inner discomfort. They just want the discussion to end in the speed of light so they can go back home. Hmm...maybe it's a kind of worry over safety/security issues around the environment. So they keep looking around like a secret agent would. Anyway, ask questions!

5. Attention Seeking:

People with different problems! Don’t be surprised to see your partner look around as helpless as someone about to commit a serious crime. The reason could be this simple: they’re trying to find out if people have recognised their presence in that place, or if your own presence has been recognised by people there. For instance, if you are sitting with a rich person or celebrity, trust me, you will always want people to notice your ‘levels’. It’s not easy to sit down and have a chat with a celebrity or rich people. On the other hand, if you love your or admire your partner so jealously well, you will want people to notice their presence. Hope you don’t bring fire on their head. Lol.

Although there may be other reasons not covered here, let the ones above suffice our quest for today. Next time you're discussing with your spouse, be psychologically active. Note the movement of their eyes; it tells a lot about them and the relationship.

Thanks a lot for reading.