Today we go a bit psychological. Let's talk about the possibility - and the necessity - of reading your partner's mind. But before we begin ragging our heads, let's make some cogent clarifications on the two key words used above: 'possibility' and 'necessity'. Due to the diverse nature of man, it's very important to ask if one can actually read another person's mind? Is it possible for you to read your parents' minds, your siblings', your partner's, teachers', etc? Secondly, is it really necessary to want to read other people's minds? Why should we bother ourselves with what others are thinking of? Of what importance would it be to us if we knew how to read people's minds very well?
We live in a world where humans can just wake up and do what no one could ever think of. Consider the 9/11 incident that claimed not just thousands of lives, but also mighty and expensive buildings. What has been the most shocking, evil thing you've seen r heard? Consider, also, the greatest surprise, gift, sacrifice, goodwill you've ever seen or heard someone do. Why do people do things - positive or negative - that most people, including think-thanks, never can predict? These, among others, are scary questions that have made most people believe that animals in the bush are better than humans; or that some humans are angels - all depending on what's being done.
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Judging from the above, would you appreciate it if you had the powers to read, at least, your partners mind? Or do you thing such is not necessary? Do you think it's not necessary to know how much someone loves you, or how truthful they are to you? Have you ever been cheated on in your relationship? Did you see it coming? Would you appreciate if you saw it coming? Probably, the person was the best thing in your life, someone whom you could die for. Same person has been cheating on you, only to appear a saint in front of you. Have you had this kind of experience before? How was your reaction? Felt like dying?
On the other hand, you were in a very serious trouble and no help was in sight. Suddenly someone you would least expect appeared and took away your sorrow. How would you feel? What if you had the powers to know such helper would surely come and so you shouldn't kill yourself over the issue you're having? Would you want to be such a super human? Today's piece attempts to explain whether it's possible and necessary to read our partner's mind. Without wasting much time, let's dissect the points of interest:
A. Is it Possible to Read Your Partner's Mind?
It's already been stated above how complicated life has grown to be, leaving us with more and more difficulties in understanding our very self, not to talk of others. To this end, wanting to understand what your partner thinks of, or what their next line of action would be, can be a bit worrisome if not completely futile. While many would settle for 2100 to 3000 thoughts per hour (in the conscious stage of the mind), it's actually impossible to determine accurately how many thoughts flood your mind daily. Where this is the case with you, how about determining what someone else thinks of at a particular time? Crazy endeavour. Isn't it? As Dave Willis would put it, 'Your spouse is not a mindreader. Don't expect them to know what you're thinking and feeling if you have not clearly communicated it'. This, on its own, is true.
However, it's possible to predict what someone could be thinking of or planning to do next. Watch their past life, how they were raised, their friends, what they like and don't like, where they go to - in fact, get details of what he/she does as a human. Till tomorrow, there are things you would tell my mum about me and forever she'd not believe you. In the end, she'd be right! She's studied me and knows most of the things I would do and what I wouldn't do. Tell her someone else in the family did that and she would believe you somehow. Or, haven't you heard people say 'don't worry, he won't report this case' and so it was? So, you can actually read your partner's mind to a very extent, depending on how close you guys are, or how well you've studied them. You must study someone to know them. Period!
B. Is it Necessary to Study Your Partner's Mind?
Of a truth, when it gets to relationship, there are people who don't just care in this life. That we must accept. Such people would be drinking beer and cheering the DJ up even when they've been told their spouse is in the bed with someone else. They might even go back home with some chocolate for the cheating spouse, and some beer for the intruder. What about those who keep the door unlocked while doing something a normal person wouldn't do without locking the door? So don't be surprised to know many won't care to read their partners' minds. It's needless to them. Their reasons could be legion. I won't state such reasons here. Please do well to ask them if you ever come across such people.
Notwithstanding, it's as important as the breathe we take for you to be able to read your spouse' mind. It's too important to overlook. Won't you like to buy them gifts they'd like without pre-informing them? What if they're harbouring some evil plans against you in the house? Won't like to surprise your partner? Lest you didn't know it, good and meaningful surprises give life to your relationship. Hash tag! Without much more on this, below are a few reasons why you need to read your partner's mind:
A. Is it Possible to Read Your Partner's Mind?
It's already been stated above how complicated life has grown to be, leaving us with more and more difficulties in understanding our very self, not to talk of others. To this end, wanting to understand what your partner thinks of, or what their next line of action would be, can be a bit worrisome if not completely futile. While many would settle for 2100 to 3000 thoughts per hour (in the conscious stage of the mind), it's actually impossible to determine accurately how many thoughts flood your mind daily. Where this is the case with you, how about determining what someone else thinks of at a particular time? Crazy endeavour. Isn't it? As Dave Willis would put it, 'Your spouse is not a mindreader. Don't expect them to know what you're thinking and feeling if you have not clearly communicated it'. This, on its own, is true.
However, it's possible to predict what someone could be thinking of or planning to do next. Watch their past life, how they were raised, their friends, what they like and don't like, where they go to - in fact, get details of what he/she does as a human. Till tomorrow, there are things you would tell my mum about me and forever she'd not believe you. In the end, she'd be right! She's studied me and knows most of the things I would do and what I wouldn't do. Tell her someone else in the family did that and she would believe you somehow. Or, haven't you heard people say 'don't worry, he won't report this case' and so it was? So, you can actually read your partner's mind to a very extent, depending on how close you guys are, or how well you've studied them. You must study someone to know them. Period!
B. Is it Necessary to Study Your Partner's Mind?
Of a truth, when it gets to relationship, there are people who don't just care in this life. That we must accept. Such people would be drinking beer and cheering the DJ up even when they've been told their spouse is in the bed with someone else. They might even go back home with some chocolate for the cheating spouse, and some beer for the intruder. What about those who keep the door unlocked while doing something a normal person wouldn't do without locking the door? So don't be surprised to know many won't care to read their partners' minds. It's needless to them. Their reasons could be legion. I won't state such reasons here. Please do well to ask them if you ever come across such people.
Notwithstanding, it's as important as the breathe we take for you to be able to read your spouse' mind. It's too important to overlook. Won't you like to buy them gifts they'd like without pre-informing them? What if they're harbouring some evil plans against you in the house? Won't like to surprise your partner? Lest you didn't know it, good and meaningful surprises give life to your relationship. Hash tag! Without much more on this, below are a few reasons why you need to read your partner's mind:
1. helps in relating with them on a general ground.
2. helps in avoiding future problems
3. helps in solving pending problems
4. brings the best in you as you live with your spouse
5. it makes you positively creative in pleasing them
6. your inputs shock them, making them appreciate you for your results
7. helps in channelling your partner to act in a careful way, knowing you know them. Word!
Etc.
I would have explained every bit of the points above, but for time and space. However, if you ever need more explanation on any or all of them, do well to send a mail to dovezheart@gmail.com or contact Dove on Facebook.com/DovezHeart. Finally, suffice it to say that if you don't study your partner's mind, you're unknowingly giving them: (a) the opportunity to operate freely and this could be dangerous to the faithfulness and trust ingredients of your relationship. In a relationship, individuals don't have their freedom; your freedom is that of the two of you - a collective freedom. You have right over him, he has right over you. Even the Bible recognises this in 1 Corinthians 7:4-5. Such right doesn't include abuses, lest someone cares to ask. (b) the mindset that you're not creative enough to please them. You probably have been told this several times by your spouse. It's real and necessary to do things with and for your partner without them always having to tell you how, when, what and why. Be creative!
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3. helps in solving pending problems
4. brings the best in you as you live with your spouse
5. it makes you positively creative in pleasing them
6. your inputs shock them, making them appreciate you for your results
7. helps in channelling your partner to act in a careful way, knowing you know them. Word!
Etc.
I would have explained every bit of the points above, but for time and space. However, if you ever need more explanation on any or all of them, do well to send a mail to dovezheart@gmail.com or contact Dove on Facebook.com/DovezHeart. Finally, suffice it to say that if you don't study your partner's mind, you're unknowingly giving them: (a) the opportunity to operate freely and this could be dangerous to the faithfulness and trust ingredients of your relationship. In a relationship, individuals don't have their freedom; your freedom is that of the two of you - a collective freedom. You have right over him, he has right over you. Even the Bible recognises this in 1 Corinthians 7:4-5. Such right doesn't include abuses, lest someone cares to ask. (b) the mindset that you're not creative enough to please them. You probably have been told this several times by your spouse. It's real and necessary to do things with and for your partner without them always having to tell you how, when, what and why. Be creative!
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Thanks a million times for the time spent here.
Happy weekend!
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